#290 Meditation 4.0 – S2 E13 – A conversation with a stranger

Time is a funny thing, right? But we already talked about that. The moment we seem to enjoy a particular thing in life, time is just flying by.

AN HOUR FEELS LIKE 10 minutes

In fact, we enjoy these moments in life to such an extent, that we totally forget about the concept of time. We end up talking for ages without an end. Sure, that would have been pretty expensive back in the old days, but with the use of the internet, it’s actually no big deal any longer.

BUT WHERE IS THE CONNECTION TO OUR MEDITATION PRACTICE?

Have you ever talked to a stranger for the first time? Met someone online and just started to talk? Having a call that took properly longer than two ours? You were laying in bed, sitting on the couch or have done nothing at all. You may do not even remember what you where doing all the time, because that wasn’t really important for you, was it? The conversation was, for sure! The topics, the discussions, the new impressions you gathered, that was the thing you were focusing on. You were right there in the present moment. You focused all your attention on this other person. Where does that person come from? How does the life of this new friend looks like? What kind of mindset does that person have? And then, somewhere down the line, the conversation ended.

From one moment to the other everything that you have been doing before seems to make no sense any longer. What have you been doing in the last three hours? Actually, you can’t tell. You were just so engaged in the conversation, nothing else really mattered. You where just there, so focused on that one particular person, you totally forgot about anything else.

IN MEDITATION, IT’S THE COMING BACK THAT IS SO IMPORTANT.

It’s the realization that your mind was just wandering around. That you were just thinking about something. You were following your impulses again. But the moment you notice that, it is time for you to finally go back. Back into the nirvana. The nothing. The total darkness.

What do you expect from a proper 20 minutes meditation session? Feeling refreshed? Energetic? Calm? Relaxed? But does it really look like that?

In my personal life, I tend to have this ongoing process in my head. These never ending thoughts. The constant demand for something next.

DO SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE AND REACH FOR THE STARS!

But does a short meditation session really helps me with that?

When I try to meditate, for sure this is helping me a lot to calm down a little bit. But that comes always with a price, right? It may consumes a lot of energy, it may feel like a hard thing for me to do. In fact, it may just be that burden in my life, that homework I don’t actually want to do, the thing I wouldn’t do on a voluntarily basis.

THEREFORE, IT LOOKS STRONGLY LIKE THIS PARTICULAR THING IN MY LIFE ISN’T THE ONE THING I CAN’T GET ENOUGH FROM.

With a conversation on the phone, it is actually something else. Sure, this can be exhausting from time to time as well, but it doesn’t feel like something hard to do after all. I am just there, right in the moment and do not think about anything else besides the current topic of the conversation. Sometimes, I may even just listen to the other person speaking and being so engaged in the story, that it feels like a very good meditation session after all.

For me, this feels great. Sure, this is also a matter of the kind of person that is speaking on the other side of the line, the topics you are going through and if you feel somehow connected to that person after all. But once you have found the right one, it will probably feel perfect.

Too often I find myself in this very strange mood, where I do not actively decide on what to do next, but instead just follow my inner drive. Hustle from one appointment to the other, without having a break, without enjoying every split second of my time. With the telephone conversations I have experienced something else. I am just there, right in the moment. I forget about time, about sleep, about food, about thirst. I just want to listen to that one person and connect.

For me, it feels more productive than my meditation practice after all, but for sure, it also consumes more time. I guess, we can’t just compare a three hour long conversation with a 20 minutes meditation session on an uncomfortable cushion, can we?

Again, it seems like I found an alternative to the classical meditation practice that helps me to let go, makes a lot of fun and maybe causes the same results in the other persons life as well.

If it’s stupid but it works, it ain’t stupid.

Murphy’s law

See you next time!

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