If there is one thing in life that you should tackle right now, it is most likely getting back in control over your life.
Whatever comes your way in life may just come, you can not change that, but you can change how you react.
Are you really in control? Are you really the one who is taking the decisions? Or is there something else that taking the decisions for you? Your addictions? Your routines? Your partner? Your family? Your friends? Your environment?
Being in control means just that, being in control.
You are observing what is going on around you, interpret what it might mean to you and your current situation in life and act upon it accordingly.
Doesn’t sound that difficult, right?
But well, well, well … we all know how difficult it really is! We know that we should change all of these bad habits we have acquired over time. We shouldn’t waste so much time in front of the tv. Or literally just doing nothing after all. But how? And when? And more importantly, how can we avoid falling back into our old pattern again?
That we can change our behavior for a week, sure, we already know that. For a month? Mhhh, well, ok, if it is really necessary! But forever? Calm down Mr. over excited! That seems to be a little bit too much! What you are demanding is not really practical, dude!
Being in control doesn’t necessarily mean to have a perfectly planned day, being a workaholic 24/7 with no time for your family, fiends or hobbies. Being in control means that you can decide on what you are doing next and really do exactly that.
Sure, you could work on your projects today, but you could also lay in the garden, drink a beer or read an interesting book. It’s not necessarily important what you do, it’s important if you can start or stop on your own.
Can you tell yourself to do something even though you really don’t want to do it after all? This is the same being in control, as to drive around on public roads in a Porsche 911 turbo S. If you are not in control, it will most at least get bloody expensive, if not even dangerous.
Are you really in control? All the time? What do you think? Are you taking the decisions, or are you following orders that seem to come from somewhere else inside your brain?
If you can’t convince yourself to do something, how do you think will you be able to this with other people? And don’t get me wrong on this, getting back in control is not a goal for the next couple of years to come! This is nothing for your New Years resolutions, this is for right now!
Control over yourself and discipline will be your new best friend.
Task: Start doing something every single day for the next year. You will learn quickly how to get back under control once you stopped doing it, or figured out a way how to avoid it after all.
See you next time!